Meet A Blogger: The Monster In Your Closet

After a few weeks away from the Meet A Blogger series, today you get to meet Deborah, who blogs at The Monster In Your Closet. If you aren’t already following Deb, you need to be, as she is one of the most kick ass bloggers on the Internet. Depending on which day you visit, you may come across a beautiful poem, a post reminiscing over her days as a student, or a heartwarming story about her boys. She is also the author of The Monster’s Daughter, which you can find more information about here.

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What’s your blog about and how did you get started blogging?

I started my first blog in 1995, when I decided I wanted my homepage to be more than a collection of links. I took that down in 2001–though the on-break notice is still up!–and moved to a more private blogging space, finally landing on WordPress in early 2011. I began The Monster in Your Closet as a place to talk writing and promote my then-new YA novel, but quickly realized I liked developing emotional connections way more than talking about writing by roughly eleventy billion percent more.

Thank You, Miss Smartypants.

What would your Motivational Poster say?

My favorite is actually a demotivational poster I’ve had posted in the past and might yet post again: “Just because you are unique doesn’t mean you are useful.” The picture makes me laugh, and–perhaps strangely?–reminds me to consider my objectives and perspectives.


You’re stranded on a desert island and have to choose three movies and three books to entertain yourself with forever. What are they?

I thought about this way too much and … Lord of the Rings, both sides! Part of me thinks I might get a little bored with all LotR, all the time. The other 99.9% of me knows I’d regret it more if I went with anything else!

What would be the title of a book on your day-to-day life?

How to Make Everyone Think You’re an Extrovert (When Really You’re an Exhausted Introvert Parent of Two Young’ns Who Overcompensates Just to Stay Awake)

What is the funniest thing you have witnessed as a parent?

I can barely remember an hour ago and it just gets worse the further back I go, so I’m going to go with the funniest thing I witnessed today! My two-year-old, Littler J, does not dig clothing one bit, so he was cruising around the house naked. My husband, Anthony, said he was going to put Littler in “a kilt and war paint and let him cosplay William Wallace.”

Anthony shouted “freedom!” in hopes Littler would echo him. Instead, Littler ran to where I was putting coconut oil on my lizard elbows. “Say ‘freedom,'” I prompted him. “Fweedom!” he shouted. Split seconds later, he reached for the coconut oil jar and hollered, “GIMME FWEEDOM!”

I busted up laughing, and I’m hoping he’ll take a little while to catch on the coconut oil is … not actually “fweedom.” Hee.

If you could give one piece of advice to new bloggers, what would it be?

Be you. You’ll find (at least) hundreds of posts daily telling you the specific steps to take and rules to follow to be a successful blogger. It can be tempting to follow that advice, but what the blogosphere–and the world!–needs is you. Your voice. Your thoughts, feelings, and perspectives … you, as you, not someone else’s proposed most-successful-blog-like version of you.

Let’s wrap this up by showing the blog love. List at least three other blogs you’re into right now.

I haven’t been able to spend much time on blogs recently, but these are three of many that I wish could get ported directly into my brain during my morning commute:

Victo Dolore
No Talent for Certainty
Little Bits of Heaven
Every blogger whose name shows up in comment on my blog 🙂

Thanks again for participating, Deborah!


30 thoughts on “Meet A Blogger: The Monster In Your Closet

    • There’s so much (completely candid, impactfully writtrn) food for thought and compassion in your blog, I feel like I’m missing out on reading and life perspective when I miss reading for more than a day! I really think folks could grow more empathy–for doctors and everyone–reading your blog and considering the questions you pose. They challenge so many assumptions in such a welcoming way, I haven’t yet seen anything else like it, anywhere. ♡

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  1. As someone else who prefers the developing-emotional-connections part “by roughly eleventy billion percent” over any other aspect of blogging, this post makes my heart shine with happy. Many thanks to you both for sharing today!

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  2. Great links to Deb – she is so insightful and inspirational. Also, I love that fork quote and pic – it’s hilarious and true! I feel that way about a lot of “creative” cocktails you see on the menu. Ha!

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  3. It seems I’m late to the game Deb! I’m so sorry. It’s just been so many levels of in-over-my-head-busy in my neck of the woods. I do love your interview answers, as well as the gal asking the questions! (I hope it goes without saying that I truly love and adore you…and love you! That smile gets me right in the feels!)
    I’ll be following you Anxious Mom💜

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  4. Stopped over from the link on Deborah’s latest post, this is an incredible interview/shout out. When Deborah answered her 1st question she mentioned “emotional connections”. I LOVE and cherish her comments. Deborah puts a lot of heart and soul to nurture those connections. Her comments are so well worded and articulated.
    Great advice for new bloggers. I have a niece who has a brand new blog. What I shared with her is exactly what Deborah has mentioned….except Deborah said it much better….lol!
    Thanks for sharing. Have an AWESOME day! 🙂


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